That's What She Said (8)

Rhythm (Method) and Blues — Access to birth control is still the fight

If you’re one of the approximately 43 million American women who are currently having sex but would really rather not get pregnant, or if you know, love, and/or are banging one of them, listen up: The GOP is out for your birth control. Early last month, the Trump Administration rolled back Obama-era regulations that required health insurers to cover a range of birth control methods with no co-pay. This comes at a time when abortion…

Looks weird, works great — Test-driving the internal condom

When people talk about safer sex, the conversation almost always revolves around the importance of condoms. Maybe your eighth grade health teacher made you stretch one over a ripe banana, or perhaps your mom slipped a box into your bedside drawer while moving you into your freshman dorm room. They hang out behind the counters of gas stations in modest three-packs — hopeful, expectant, and awkward as hell to ask for when there’s a line…

Even Sex Columnists Get the Blues

In my adventures as a sex educator the last five years, I’ve worked with thousands of adults and teenagers across the country, designed curricula focused on healthy sexuality and relationships, trained more than 100 humans in the basics of sexuality education, and sacrificed a large portion of my free time to keep up with emerging research and trends in sexual health. I’ve done my damndest to teach people how to communicate with their partners and…

Hot in Herre — Tips for Getting Down When the Temperature is Up

It’s no secret that summer days in Maine are gorgeous, precious, fleeting things. Billboards, brochures, and travel guides obsess over this fact: So much sun! Look, a lighthouse! The rugged coastline! Charming seaside lobster shacks! But however idyllic the daytime might be, the season has a shadow side: hellishly hot, humid nights. Unless you’re a member of the petite bourgeoisie willing and able to spring for a window A/C unit, chances are you’ve spent plenty…

Feed Your Fantasies — How to Talk to Your Partner(s) About Kink

Dear Kaylee, Do you have any tips for talking to partners or potential partners about kink/fetishes? There are things I’m interested in trying that I haven’t been able to talk to anyone about because I’m nervous about accidentally freaking someone out or losing out on a relationship because of what I’m into. How and when should I start the conversation?  Thanks, M.B.     Dear M.B., You’re not alone in feeling that talking about kink,…

It's Time to Up Your Masturbation Game

Imagine you’ve been hooking up with someone for a while. They’re not really the touchy-feely type — with this person, it’s all about the sex. They come over, make a beeline for your crotch, and as soon as you've had an orgasm, they're gone. No cuddling. Not even a “same time next week?” They're just out the door. I'm willing to bet that even in spite of getting to come, a lot of folks out…

It's Quick and (Mostly) Painless — Go Get Tested

Howdy, friend. When’s the last time you got tested for STIs?   April is Sexually Transmitted Infection Awareness Month. Although it’s probably a little harder to get into a celebratory spirit about STI screening than it is about Black History Month in February or Women’s History Month in March, there’s no time like the present for having important conversations with yourself, your healthcare provider, and your partner(s) about checking in on the state of your…

Portland Deserves Better Sex

Hi there, Portland. My name is Kaylee and I’d like to help you have better sex. Before we jump into making that happen over the coming months, you might be wondering who I am and why I’m qualified help you accomplish that goal. Totally fair. Let’s discuss. I was born in Cleveland, Ohio. Which, in spite of being a decidedly un-sexy place, is the starting point in my sex educator origin story. That’s because, sex-ed…
Subscribe to this RSS feed